… a caring heart can talk to “fear” so real encouragement happens.
First remind yourself and the one you love that:
God is Great.
The Greatest.
Omnipotent.
- Reminisce over instances where God has impacted your loved one’s life.
- Remind your spouse how God has used His power to change circumstances.
Sometimes your spouse is too close to their own history to do their own translation – they’re so swallowed up by fear they can’t see clearly. That’s why understanding the events in your spouse’s life is imperative so real encouragement can happen.
Then – use your caring heart to refocus your spouse.
Has your spouse been called to take action? (but they’re paralyzed because they don’t know how – or they’re procrastinating because the task seems too daunting?)
Provide new insight into the task at hand – do research into that area, talk with people who have mastered the action and gently introduce your spouse to the information you learn. Stimulate your spouse into action with new insight so real encouragement can happen. And if the situation is appropriate – lend a hand. Be there to support in a physical way.
Is your spouse called to be patient and wait? (but they’re eaten by jealousy, shaking with rage or stressed out because they feel they’re being passed over or being taken advantage of?)
Use prayer to ask God to lift them up. Let your spouse hear you pray for patience and a heart of peace to the One who can intervene and change emotions. Be persistent. And wrap them up in your love. Let your love warm them with its patience, trust and kindness.
Is your spouse called to change? (but they’re blowing back and forth with indecision or withdrawing and isolating themselves?)
Inspire the one you love with hope – hope for better… more… greater. It requires you to be optimistic – to have a clear picture of what could be – before you can give hope.
When you talk, with a caring heart to your spouse’s fears, encourage them to:
- have hope
- increase their faith in God
- dwell on the love they have in their life
- pray unceasingly
- take action (do something positive)
- learn & gather new information
- search for and be true to who God needs them to be
Remember – the only fear with worth is God-fear, because
“The fear of the LORD is the beginning of knowledge…”Proverbs 1:7 NIV
Sometimes your spouse can be paralyzed with fear. Or that paralysis is disguised as fear. Sometimes procrastination is because of fear… fear that something will go wrong – or right. Fear of the unknown. Fear of change. Invite your spouse to move past that fear – move past procrastination…