Vision first. Then goals. Many couples use the beginning of a calendar year, or an anniversary as a stopping point to reflect and create goals. But sometimes goals by themselves cause more strife than they’re worth. How do you know if your goals are working for you? Consider…
If you have goals as a couple, are they difficult to complete, or are you feeling divided or at odds with your spouse over these goals?
Maybe setting out a vision first would be a good idea…
Vision: a statement that holds your hopes and dreams.
Imagine your vision as a point on the horizon. The direction you’re traveling to get to that vision is the mission, and all the goals along the way are propelling your mission. And your values as husband and wife are the signposts or rumble strips keeping you on the road. Read HERE about values.
Some might suggest that you need a family vision – but Rob and I would argue that you and your spouse lead your family – so it’s really a vision that is spelled out by the two of you.
But first… the vision.
A unified vision is powerful for a husband a wife.
Ask these questions when defining your vision as husband and wife…
- Why are we doing what we’re doing and involved in what we’re scheduled in?
- How are we making a positive difference in the lives of others?
- Who will benefit, now and in the future?
- What do we want to get out of this? (ask regarding all those items you’re involved in.)
- What does real success look like, and what does it feel like?
Pray. Ask God to lead your thoughts and desires around these questions. God knows what’s best for the two of you – ask Him!
When you’ve set the vision, then you have something solid to build goals around and encourage each other in.
Keep the hope for that better vision front and center.
Build your goals around the vision and keep your progress in check with your shared values.
Where there is no vision, the people perish…
~ Proverbs 29:18 KJV