I’ve spent the last few weeks reading for a short while every morning from the new book “He Said, She Said, I Said” by Barbara J. Peters.

I read a lot – so to remember points from a book, I’ll write a little sticky note with the idea and put it on the page.   That way, when I look back through a book, trying to find an idea I loved, it’s saved.   There are so many valuable concepts in this book – I have to tell you – it’s FULL of stickies!

Here are a few topics I wrote down –

• the process of how to ask for forgiveness
• about how vulnerability allows and fosters intimacy
• on marriage teams – the team is only as good as its players
• on how to address when you don’t feel about your mate the way you did earlier in your marriage
• the value of friendship in marriage

He Said, She Said, I Said  is divided into 7 areas:  Communication, Trust, Forgiveness, Intimacy, Acceptance, Friendship & Love.  Each chapter has questions from either a “he” or a “she”  and then Peters answers the questions.   I value hearing male and female questions and perspectives.   At the beginning of every chapter is a short piece of lyrics from a song – make sure you take the time to read each stanza.  It’s both a fun, and effective idea to switch the reader’s focus from one topic to another.

I’ve really enjoyed reading and thinking on the answers in this book – they’re friendly yet thought-provoking and cover valuable aspects in a marriage.  From my perspective, I’d suggest this book would really benefit longer-married couples.  And because of both the male and female questions/perspectives, it would give them lots to talk about!