One of my go-to questions when I interview couples is:
Is there a person who has had an impact on you as a husband/wife?
Sometimes couples immediately identify someone who has impacted their marriage life for the positive. Often it’ll be parents or grandparents. That’s good. And right. Sometimes it’ll be a minister, or a couple who formally mentors other couples, and sometimes it’ll be friends.
Once a couple starts to talk about who has influenced them, this question triggers conversation on what each person feels is important in a marriage.
I believe there are many people who impact our marriage. But we don’t always take note. Sometimes we’re influenced even in just a passing encounter…
What got me thinking about this today? A post by Dr. Ann at The Marriage Checklist. This couple she writes about shared a Bible verse with her – and she remembers that they held hands. It’s been 15 years – and she still thinks about them.
So – I have a question for you today:
Who influences your marriage?
Pay attention to who is influencing your marriage – for the positive. Say something to them – give thanks for them. Let them know why they have been a positive influence on your marriage. Even the strongest marriage relationship can use some affirmation!
Talk to your spouse about who has been an influence on their understanding of what a husband or wife could/should be. You may be surprised at the answer. It’ll definitely create conversation.
What if you don’t have any positive ‘influencers’ for your marriage?
Robert and I enjoy reading, and we learn a lot from books and blog posts on marriage enrichment. But there’s something extraordinary to experience when you spend time – face to face – learning from and with another married couple…
Perhaps it’s the right time to look for marriage mentors?
We can learn a lot from other couples about encouraging our spouse!
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