Fawn – the writer and heart behind The Happy Wives Club posted this quote:
There is no greater happiness for a man than approaching a door at the end of a day knowing someone on the other side of that door is waiting for the sound of his footsteps.
This caused me to reflect on how my response has changed when I know Rob has arrived home and is coming up the walkway…
When our kids were small, they became very excited when Daddy walked in the door. Because we home-schooled, we were able to shape our lives to fit into Robert’s schedule. There were times when he needed to travel and we went along. Other times, the kids and I would have breakfast with him because we knew he had client meetings till late in the evening. But when Rob walked in the door, it was an event.
Of course, our lives have changed over the years.
Now the kids are grown and gone. It’s just Robert, our 13 year old German Shepherd and me.
For a while, Katie (the German Shepherd) was the only one still greeting Robert at the door. Her tail would wag ecstatically and she would butt her head against his legs and get hair all over… (anyone with a shepherd understands the “hair” issue). I could hear Rob talking to her, and her tail whacking against the door or wall. Once Katie the dog, was less excited, Robert would wander down the hall or into the kitchen to find me.
One day it hit me -my husband – the guy I love more than any person on this earth -was being greeted by a dog when he came home… not by me. There was a disconnect somewhere between my feelings and my actions.
Frankly, it was pretty sad that the dog got there first.
Since that time, the dog and I compete on who gets to door first! (Unfortunately/fortunately, Katie is now mostly deaf, so I have the advantage!)
So my question to you is:
Do your actions reflect your love?
Maybe it isn’t the “door greeting” that’s an issue in your relationship.
- Maybe it’s how you spend your “free” time?
- Maybe it’s who you think of first when it comes to gift giving?
- Maybe it’s because you aren’t (really) praying for your spouse?
- Maybe it’s who you cater to when you prepare your meals?
- Maybe it’s who you first go to when you’re feeling low, or celebrating something.
Only you know if there’s a disconnect between your actions and what you feel for your spouse.