Guess what? Your spouse is changing.
There’s nothing so constant as change.
The one you married, and the one you woke beside this morning – are not the same person. Inside.
The one-you-love is changing and growing and shifting into the person God is designing them to become. Are you keeping up? Are you plugged in?
Or do you go through your day, your week, your month and year just assuming everything about your spouse is staying the same… (and you know what they say about ‘assuming’).
There’s a simple equation to keep up with what’s new with your spouse:
(Thoughtful Questions + Quality Listening) x Time Together = Intimate Knowledge
I bet you’ve heard of having a date night.
Lots of people suggest it’s a good idea for married couples. There are books and websites suggesting possible options for dating your spouse. I mentioned a great website here.
Dating and spending specific time together to talk allows our spouse time to share. But unless we have a really compelling ‘why’ behind an action, we’re not going to put too much emphasis on the idea.
One ‘why’ to date your spouse is to stay tuned into how the one-you-love is growing. Then you’ll be able to inspire with a word of meaningful hope, pray with relevance and uplifting impact, and know what actions can support him/her as they grow.
When you last spent time together – had a date – what ‘new’ thing did you discover about your spouse?
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We Always enjoy date nights, we don’t do this as much as we should but when we do we always come home refreshed, and feeling good about where we are. It reminds you how much you enjoy this person and why you committed your life to them.
Angela
Being reminded about how much you enjoy your spouse and why you’re spending your life together is so valuable. Thanks for dropping by, Angela!
Just had to share this, Lori. Wonderful stuff.
Lori,
You have said this so well. “The one-you-love is changing and growing and shifting into the person God is designing them to become. Are you keeping up? Are you plugged in? ”
What a compelling reason to date your spouse. It isn’t to simply have fun and make memories, but it is so much more. Thank you for writing it so precisely and specific. I will tweet this to my Twitter friends – and the equation is simply brilliant! Thank you for getting me thinking…
Blessings,
Debi