Intentional growth in your marriage takes effort.
(Welcome to Robert’s readers from FergusonValues.com)
Couples grow out of their relationships because they’re not working on them together. <– Tweet this!
(That’s a quote from a book I first read last year, and have re-read this year, planning for a series of posts here on Encourage Your Spouse.)
If you want to encourage your spouse – or – have your spouse encourage you, both spouses need to be moving toward something.
Are you moving toward something in your marriage? Or are you moving on auto-pilot? Encouragement rarely happens when you’re meandering along on auto-pilot in your marriage.
Are you on relationship “auto-pilot”?
If you’re on relationship “auto-pilot”, maybe it’s time to flip the switch?
Maybe it’s time to flip the switch to “INTENTIONAL”.
Yes. I know.
There is a lot going on in your life. You’ve got a huge to-do list!
Time is at a premium.
There’s nothing urgent in your relationship – why should you use your precious time – now – to work on your marriage?
Take time for your relationship now –
because if it’s not growing…
Be Intentional and Grow
Grow your marriage – but how?
In the next few weeks, Robert and I will be writing about the process of setting goals. Goals as a married couple…
Goal setting as a couple doesn’t have to be painful or boring.
It’s just a process. And it can be painless, and entertaining… really.
Step ONE – Reminisce and Reflect
The first step is to do a bit of reminiscing and reflecting.
To help you do this, Robert and I have created a short ebook – it includes some instructions and 29 questions for you and your spouse to have a date – an afternoon, morning or evening – to grow your relationship.
Click below to go to Gumroad (it’s a site where we’re hosting our resources) and get this ebook.
click this link: 29 Reminiscing and Reflecting Questions for Husbands & Wives <– click
What’s in the ebook?
Well – there are 29 questions. Twenty of the questions are there for a bit of Reminiscing about your marriage in the last year. Nine are Reflecting questions. And there are two – I guess you’d call them essays – about each section. I wrote the section on reminiscing, and Robert wrote the section on reflection.
It’s a very short ebook. A book-let. Tiny. It has 12 pages, and most of them are the questions. Maybe it would be better labeled as workbook…
Why did we write this little booklet/workbook? Two reasons:
One reason was our websites were not working for a time because we moved them to a different hosting company (technical stuff). We couldn’t write posts for a while on this site, yet still wanted to write.
The other reason is because Robert and I are being more intentional in our writing this year. We want to create more resources, and offer tangible gifts to you.
So. Here’s a resource for you!
Here’s a book we recommend about off-site planning as a couple:
How are you intentional about growing your marriage?
Do you set goals – make plans for what you want out of the year ahead… Do you reminisce about what’s working in your marriage?
We are still talking about planning with intention: