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Planning with Your Spouse
There are three areas often forgotten in this season of festivity. Maybe they’re overlooked. Or perhaps these three items are just plain ignored. It might be different in your household, but from experience and observation of others, I believe these three areas are best addressed proactively.
What are you offering?
Encouragement is like a glass of clear, clean, cold water - it refreshes. What would you call the glass of dirty water with "floaties"? (it's not encouragement) Which are you offering your spouse? Inspire with Hope - Encouraging by looking forward with optimism....
Soak in the Beauty
The days can become hectic - disjointed - spastic - frazzled... How can you and your spouse regroup - renew - recharge? Take a break with your spouse - soak in some beauty: Go for a walk. Enjoy the beauty God has provided in nature. Visit a museum or art...
The “I CAN” Perspective
"Hearers interpret our questions and comments from their own perspective. Perhaps we should spend a bit more time encouraging and building confidence in others so they have the ability to see things from a “can do” approach." ~ Dan Rockwell - Leadership Freak - from...
Encouragers start conversations.
If you were to use one word to describe each block of time in your day, which words would you use? Wake - pray - read - exercise - shower - eat - drive - work - walk - eat - work - drive - eat - visit - TV - read - pray - sleep. Now - how would you describe...
Mission, Vision & Action
The year Robert and I were married 25 years, we went away for a week on a retreat. We decided to plan for the next 25 years – what would our mission be?
Encouraging Words: Advance
Do two walk together unless they have agreed to do so? ~ Amos 3:3 Where are you and your spouse going? It's not really a hard question - "Where are you going?" You're going forward, right? But are you going forward, moving in the same direction, with your spouse?...
Fear, Uncertainty & Doubt… oh my!
We're bombarded by messages in the media that are designed to create fear, uncertainty & doubt. (I know, because my marketing-minded husband constantly points out ads with this message!) The next time you watch a television program and encounter the ads between...
Encouraging Words: Advocate
You are a spouse. A Wife - A Husband In our role as husband or wife, different seasons in marriage require varying talents. There are seasons where one spouse may wear the badge "wage-earner" and the other "child-nurturer". Later in life we've seen husband or wife...
Faith – Love – Hope
Faith goes up the stairs that love has made and looks out of the windows which hope has opened. ~ Charles Spurgeon What do you know about Charles & Susannah Spurgeon? (This post first appeared on Robert's site - FergusonValues - in May 2012) One of the greatest...
Be Aware – You’re on the Scale!
Our days begin early here at the Ferguson spot/farm/ranch/infested-with-bug-space. (Not to worry. The bugs/spiders/creepy-crawlers are outside! If they invade my indoor space they're dead.) Lately we've been slogging through some hot and humid days so...
Commemorating the Good Stuff
Life isn't always champagne wishes and caviar dreams... (Hah - do you hear Robin Leach's British voice from Lifestyles of the Rich and Famous?) but every couple has good stuff to celebrate! How do you document & celebrate the good stuff? Pictures I imagine you...
Encouragement in Action
Kindness is encouragement in action. You may be brilliant. You may have great ideas. You might even have all the experience and education to back up your suggestions. Sharing insights and ideas is valuable in a marriage. It's good to have active, engaging...
Encouraging Words: Dissuade
How can a "dis" word be an encouraging word? We would never use the word "dis-courage". And yet, this word - dissuade - is a synonym of discourage! When would you not encourage your spouse? Imagine... Two companions, while walking arm-in-arm down a road chatting and...
A Gift
One of The Five Love Languages (book by Gary Chapman) is... Gifts Now, Gary Chapman suggests that we all have a primary Love Language from the list of 5 - touch, words of affirmation, acts of service, quality time & gifts - and sometimes we are 'bi-lingual' and...
Are you sure you encourage?
Since January 23rd, Robert has been playing with a new 'toy' to motivate himself to focus on being more active. It's called the FitBit. What is a FitBit? It's a small, wireless device that tracks how many steps he takes every day. The data is sent wirelessly to a...
Encouraging Words: Reinforce
Did you know that the first "not good" in the Bible was about Adam being alone? Now the Lord God had planted a garden in the east, in Eden; and there he put the man he had formed. (Genesis 2:8) The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a...
Encouraging Words: Brighten
When you walk into the room Do you light up the room? OR When you enter the room ... Do you extinguish the light? What's your role in your spouse's life? Be the one who brightens their world! All the darkness in the world cannot extinguish the light of...
Mental Health Awareness Month – May
Illness shows up in many forms. Your spouse may be struggling with a chronic silent physical illness - Lupus, Crohn's Disease, Diabetes, etc. Or a mental illness. Regardless of the disease your day-to-day living is impacted. Disease rearranges finances,...
Entering Your Day: Being deliberately & reverently married.
Married. How do you enter your day being reverently and deliberately married? “Therefore marriage is not to be entered into unadvisedly or lightly, but reverently, deliberately, and in accordance with the purposes for which it was instituted by God.” I've begun...
Windshield Driving
When you sit in the driver's seat of your vehicle, where do you look? Most of us spend most of the time looking through the front windshield. We were told in driver's education to glance in our side and rear-view mirrors. Think about the size of the front windshield....
