Can you think of a time when you loved your spouse with excessive, unfair partiality?

Or showed him or her preferential treatment?  Or gave the one you love – your spouse – your undivided support, attention and approval?

It’s OK to be biased.

It’s good to have a favorite person – if that person is your spouse!

Think about it – if your spouse is your favorite:

  • you like your spouse more than anyone else.  That’s kinda cool.  Imagine if your spouse felt that you liked him/her more than anyone else,  if they knew that you liked them best…  how would that influence your relationship?
  • your actions are biased.  You regularly choose your spouse.  There’s no question in anyone’s mind that your spouse is first in your consideration.  Imagine if your spouse felt you considered him/her first…  how would that affect your relationship?
  • you give without expecting remuneration.  There’s no expectation to receive anything in return, if your spouse is your favorite.  What you give is just an outward sign of your favor – your regard and approval.  Imagine if your spouse felt no strings were attached to anything you gave her/him… how would that shape your relationship?

Show your spouse favor.

You demonstrated your bias when you married your spouse.

You chose that special person over every other person on your wedding day and showed her/him excessive partiality.

On your wedding day you promised your undivided support in good and bad, in sickness and health.

 

Make every day just like your wedding day – encourage your spouse by making her/him your favorite!

Favor:  

– goodwill as a kind act; not from justice or for remuneration

– held in high regard with preferential treatment, unfair partiality and excessive kindness

Have you been married a while?  Perhaps you’ve renewed your vows.  What did you promise to your spouse when you renewed your vows?  If you’re considering renewing your vows, what would you promise?