Encourage and motivate your husband or wife? Sometimes words (alone) won’t motivate or encourage, but they are a place to begin…
21 things to say to encourage and motivate your spouse…
Below are 21 ideas for you to say or text or write in a note to encourage your spouse. Play around with the ideas – make them your own!
But then what? What can you do after you use these phrases to encourage and motivate? Here are three things to do that will add some real emphasis to your words:
Inspire with HOPE – convey these phrases with a belief of hope for the future. Provide concrete ideas on how this hope can come alive.- Lift up your spouse with PRAYER – your faith in God and all He can and will do can be backed up with prayer. Pray aloud, pray with your husband or wife, ask others to pray. Be a warrior. Need help learning to pray? Take a look at these ideas.
- Support with ACTION – this is where your words make the greatest impact. What can you do to demonstrate what you’re saying is true? Remember – you and your husband/wife are a team. What are you doing to hold up your end of the teamwork? Be a “Dream Team” –read this to learn how!
Your ability to encourage and motivate is like any other skill. It takes practice. Each spouse is unique – every time-period is different. You know what makes all the difference? NEVER giving up!
(Want to tell your spouse how amazing he/she is but need some help being specific? Click here for a free resource to download!)
you make my heart smile – encourage your spouse
Your dreams matter to me – let me help you achieve them
you have my love, hope, faith and support.
you are interesting and confident – I love that about you – encourage your spouse
we can – we will – I’m with you – encourage your spouse
you are enough – you have nothing to prove to me – encourage your spouse
you are amazing… let me tell you why…
with you it’s different – better – encourage your spouse
you make my dopamine levels go sky high – encourage your spouse
we have the most essential element – love – everything else we can work toward
we aren’t perfect but have forever to get bette
thank you for never giving up – encourage your spouse
thank you for caring what my heart feels and head thinks
thank you for being willing to get out of your comfort zone
thank you – I’ve always gone to sleep knowing I matter to you
in you I’ve found my truest friend – encourage your spouse
I’m so thankful we’ve grown through what we’ve gone through
I will never finish falling in love with you – encourage your spouse
I still remember praying for you and now you’re here – encourage your spouse
I believe in the good things coming for both of us – encourage your spouse
God started something good in us – let’s grow together as He finishes it – encourage your spouse
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Thank you for sharing! It is true, we never know just how much our words mean to our spouse. We can build up or tear down. After 30 years of marriage, it’s easy to fall into a routine and forget to recognize and affirm one another. I plan to use some of your tips today!
Thank you for stopping in – and it’s so true that after years of marriage we sometimes forget how important it is to use our words to build up! (I’m with ya! 😉 )
So easy to take each other for granted and forget to give the affirmation we ourselves seek.
These are all really great!
Thank you, Jas!
(You show love through your cooking… that’s a great option too!)
Wow, Lori … this is a huge treasure trove of powerful love. What a gracious offering you’ve shared with us here.
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(I’m thrilled you’ve found it a treasure.)
Loved this, I can’t wait to put some of these into action. I’m always looking for new ways to motivate my sweet hubby!!
I think You are Enough is the most powerful in my marriage. When my husband knows that we are not expecting him to be anything than what God created him to be, there is a freedom in our relationship!
I think the most important aspect is praying WITH your spouse. I am amazed at how many strong Christians don’t pray with their spouses. I heard a statistic a long time ago that that was a huge indicator on whether or not Christian couples stayed together. We aren’t huge prayer warriors like I wish we were, but we always pray together before we fall asleep at night.
Hi there, Lori. You’ve got some great ideas here! Some of these would also work to encourage our kids or friends. But yes, yes, and yes to putting our spouses in first place to encourage them! (Instead of giving them the leftovers.)
Thanks for stopping in, Betsy – it’s so true that we need to put our spouses in first place – thanks for addressing that!