I’m so happy Fawn Weaver from The Happy Wives Club has written a guest post for Encourage Your Spouse!  Because she’s both the president of a company, and a dedicated blogger/advocate for marriage, her life is just a tiny bit busy. (Or more than a tiny bit, perhaps?)  Have you ever felt this way?…

 Oftentimes when my husband, Keith, is arising for the day, I’m just going to sleep. 

It’s happened more often recently than usual.  I have team members around the world and oftentimes, if there is a problem, it can easily turn into an all-nighter for me.

I’ve been tired lately. 

Exhausted really.  And one of the easiest things would be to pull away from my husband because I need some rest.  But the better –and more encouraging- thing to do is in the midst of this busy season of life, to make sure he knows [outside of God] he is the most important person in the world to me.

Thinking about this today caused me to recall something that happened when I was going through a similarly hectic period in my life.  I remember waking up early one morning while Keith was still enjoying his beauty rest.  It was late in the morning and I needed to get up and wash my hair so I could begin the day.  With hair still wet, I walked over near the bed and Keith lifted the covers inviting me to lie next to him.

First thought: my honey’s awake and I’d love to hold him and to be held.  Second thought: My hair is wet and I have so many things I need to get done before leaving the house.

In a situation like this, always go with the thought closest to your heart. 

My first thought won that mini battle and I accepted his unspoken invitation to lie beside him.  Holding me in his arms and his tender kisses reminded me of an all too important truth: My husband needs me to slow down to stay physically connected with him.

Oftentimes we make the mistake of taking for granted the time we have with our spouse.  We run here and there, to and from, and forget how much our husbands need to simply be held, caressed and shown –through physical affection- how much we desire them.

So many pull away from their husband’s physical advances because the thought is it will lead to sex and sometimes there isn’t time for sex at that exact moment.  But pulling away is a mistake.  Our husbands need to be held.  We need to be held.  Holding hands, stroking the side of his face and him doing the same to yours, embracing each other with a simple hug.  Sometimes that’s all the current moment will allow.  And most times, that’s more than enough.

Have you ever found yourself pulling away from your husband’s advances when you’re rushed because you think he’ll expect more?  Fall into the moment.  You may be pleasantly surprised.  Your husband knows when you have to go and you won’t need to abruptly pull away to make that point.

Simply allow yourself to be embraced. 

Stay in the moment.  Then go about the business of your day.  Because no matter what is pressing on your schedule, it will never be as important as that exact moment because you never know what the next minute may bring (because, of course, we know that no breath beyond the present is guaranteed).

 

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About Fawn:

photo by David K. Yamamoto

Fawn is a happy marriage advocate and the founder of the Happy Wives Club (www.happywivesclub.com) with nearly 100,000 members in more than 100 countries around the world.  Working daily to change the tone of the conversation worldwide in terms of marriage and the negativity often accompanying that term.  The Happy Wives Club is a go to place for wives successful in their marriage to share their thoughts and advice with others hoping to achieve a happiness and contentment in their own relationship.

When she’s not blogging or connecting with her online community, she is the president of ValRent Corporation.

 

 

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