Changing the Future – Together

Do you and your spouse share a vision – a conviction – on how you’d like to affect/effect the world around you?

  • Maybe it’s your own world consisting of you and your spouse you’d like to improve.
  • Perhaps it’s your own family circle – kids, parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins – that you’re convinced needs leadership and direction.
  • Possibly changing your community is your focus.
  • Or it might be that you have a world-changing, spiritually huge conviction…

Are you looking at a change in 2013? 

Robert and I are fascinated by other couples who make an impact. On his blog, Robert writes about values. There are over 400 values that he’s defined. He wrote the post below about the value of conviction.

What are you convicted to change?

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A boy grows up telling everyone that someday he will become a doctor. And then he does.

A girl grows up believing she will someday become a famous singer. And now she is.

A young married couple willingly chooses a different way to start their marriage by moving to a foreign country to rescue sex-trafficked children. After two years they’re still at it.

How does an individual or couple ‘know’ what they will do – or become – in the future? What do tomorrow’s successful leaders do today to create an environment for success?

There is power in the value of conviction.

The Value of Conviction

As a differentiating value, Conviction means an unshakable belief in something without need for proof or evidence.

There is a solid connection between conviction and faith. It is defined succinctly in the Bible: “Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen” (Hebrews 11:1).

When one has such a faith, an unshakable belief in something that they need no evidence or proof to justify their belief, then they truly possess the value of conviction. And with such conviction comes power – the power to change oneself, and change the world.

The Power of Conviction

Looking back in history upon the conviction of those who made a significant impact on the world, there is a strong link to religious beliefs. And rightfully so. That is the source of faith.

Consider these remarkable leadership couples:

  • Dr. David and Mary Livingston. As a genuine missionary team, the Livingston’s opened the door to missionary work in Africa. Even after loosing Mary (to malaria), Dr. Livingston remained focused on bringing ‘Christianity, Commerce, and Civilization’ to the tribes in the interior of Africa. Traveling an estimated 30,000 miles through the African bush (in deplorable conditions), he never wavered in his conviction.
  • Charles and Susannah Spurgeon.  As one of the greatest couples of their time, the Spurgeon’s were filled with true conviction. Starting at the age of 16, Charles became the most popular preacher of his day, eventually reaching an estimated 10 Million people. Thanks to Susannah’s untiring efforts after her husband died, the conviction of Charles to spread the Gospel of Christ is still felt to this day.

Of course, the power of conviction can be leveraged by anyone who combines passion with a purpose. That’s the essence of leadership.

To fulfill a big idea, a leader must possess an unshakable faith in their vision. Best-selling author Andy Stanley skillfully defines the term Visioneering, in his book of the same name, as: “a clear mental picture of what could be, fueled by the conviction that it should be.

When a leadership couple engages in visioneering, be prepared to see the world change. There’s power in their conviction.

Who do you know that has embraced the value of conviction? What drives them forward?

How can the value of conviction help you change the world?

Today’s value was selected from the “Confidence-Courage” category, based on the e-book Developing Your Differentiating Value.

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Has your spouse talked about what they’d like to change?  How can you support them in that endeavor?  Supporting with action is one of the 5 ways to encourage…

Please leave a comment – both Robert and I are interested in hearing from you!

H.E.L.P.

Hello – this is Lori.  Today is a special day for me for 2 reasons. 

The first, is that I get to share my friends Peter & Donna with you.  We’ve been friends as couples since before Robert & I were married, have experienced the joys of raising children and homeschooling,  and blessings of life in ministry, the pain of being separated by many miles and the laughter that only close friends can share.  If I had a brother or sister, Peter & Donna would be it!

The second, is that you can hear from Peter and his perspective on encouraging someone who is battling a frustrating illness.  Peter is my first guest-blogger on Encourage Your Spouse.   

So.  Here’s Peter:

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Lori asked me to contribute to her blog. 

So here it is…my wife Donna, suffers from depression. 

Wow, there’s a load off my chest. 

How do I cope with her illness as a supportive spouse? 

That’s a good question – I give and get help. 

What does help mean to me? ·        

  • Hope     
  • Encouragement
  • Love
  • Prayer

Hope

I hope everyday that something will change or improve for Donna – even the littlest things are celebrated. 

But putting my hope and trust only in doctors, is short-sighted on my part. 

My hope is in the fact that God knows the future, He lives in the present, and He offers hope to the hopeless.  Knowing He is with us gives me strength!  I remind Donna of that often…which leads me to… 

Encouragement

This one is sometimes tough to do on a daily basis.  I try to offer thoughts and actions of encouragement to Donna.  Sometimes I fall short and add no value to her.  Other times, the value I add is just to be there for her.  The value I give is to listen when she wants to share her thoughts.  I can’t solve the problem – that I know.  But I can certainly listen and offer encouragement whenever possible to her.

Love

Donna and I have been married over 24 years now.  Boy time has flown by fast.  In all those years my love for Donna has transformed – in a good way.  Sure we’ve had our struggles and still do, but we’ve also experienced great joys and triumphs. 

I look at Donna in wonderment as to her resolve in continuing on, even when the road ahead is not yet traveled.  She has more difficult days than not, but every morning before I leave for work, I pray over her and give her a kiss on my way out. 

She is precious because God gave her to me.  Being a depressed person, she may not always see that…but I do try and take opportunities to show her that she plays an important part of my life.   

Prayer

This is a big one for me. 

Prayer has gotten us through a lot of things over the years.  I pray for Donna every day. 

I also pray to God and thank Him every day for the wedding blessing we received many years ago.  The Covenant I made with Donna and God is as important to me now as it was then.  The three of us are still together!  I don’t want to take that for granted. 

I know God will continue to strengthen us both whatever journey He decides we walk on.  He is always with us.

And lastly, we are not too proud to ask God for help – we know He will give it to us if we approach Him humbly.  We also realize God may not give us the help in a way or time that we think He should.  For me, this is the part that I need to grow into – His thoughts are not my thoughts… His ways are not my ways.

Sure I wish things would be different – but they aren’t. 

 The only question left to ask is…

“What am I to learn from this experience?” 

Perhaps the answer is to simply share it with others so they too can get – H.E.L.P.

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This is the first time Peter has ever written about his role as a spouse of someone battling depression & anxiety.  I’m encouraging him to blog more – share more – because I’m sure there are quite a few people who would value his perspective.  Would you join me in giving Peter a few words of encouragement?  Please leave a comment below…  🙂