Be thankful. Share your Gratitude.

Be thankful. Share your Gratitude.

Be thankful. Demonstrate gratitude. That’s how to get out of the rut of mid-marriage blahs.

 Being thankful is one way to realize there’s “more” in marriage than you thought.

Be thankful – thankfulness makes everything new!

We encourage you and your spouse to start a habit of thankfulness – perhaps at every mealtime, you can each think of one person or thing you’ve been thankful for in that day. Do that for at least 2 weeks and see what a change of view it can cause!

Then… take action together and write a note or text that person who has brought that feeling of thankfulness to you.  

  • thank the attentive cashier as you check out your groceries
  • send a Facebook “thank you” to a long-distance friend who brightens your day with their memes
  • PRAY for those you’re thankful for – ask God to bless them
  • smile and thank the person sweeping or mopping or collecting trash where ever you are
  • give your children a huge hug and be thankful that they are yours!
  • tweet a favorite writer whose prose makes a difference in your life
  • text your minister and thank him/her for having a servant’s heart
  • write a note and send it to your parents – no special occasion – just be thankful
  • send an email to a teacher, a co-worker, a client, your local governmental representative, another couple friend, your siblings, the person who cuts your grass, the business owner who you value…

Maybe make a list?

You probably know that Robert and I are doing the #93toJOY challenge…  one of the days has a prompt to write out 100 things/people for which you’re thankful!  (it’s not as hard as you’d think!)

When we did the prompt our first 50+ were all people!

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Have you ever made a list of all the items you’re thankful for? Try it tonight!  You’ll end up feeling really good about your life together. And then take action to write a few notes, or send emails or texts or shout out on Facebook or Instagram to those people on your list. Rob and I are going to be taking those names on our list and reaching out this weekend!

Join us on the #93toJOY journey!

#93toJOY is for when life isn’t as easy, isn’t as fun, and you’re not feeling connected with your spouse in the way you’d like. Learn more HERE.  We put photos on our Instagram account ( with the hashtag #93toJOY – take a look!

Be thankful! Leave a comment on what you’re thankful for today!

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Consider JOY? Well… It’s our 33rd anniversary and we want to give you a gift!

Consider JOY? Well… It’s our 33rd anniversary and we want to give you a gift!

Consider joy? What joy?

Consider it all joy, my brethren, when you encounter various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces endurance.  And let endurance have its perfect result, so that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing.

James 1:2-4 NASB

Sigh. Sometimes it’s hard to find and feel the joy.

Consider it all joy?

All of it? Really? Joy in all the trials – seen and unseen? Consider joy? Those trials in your head – the ones that wake you at 2 AM, and the trials which seem insurmountable, even if you’re the one that created them? Consider joy?

What if you woke tomorrow with only those things for which you are thankful today?

33 years to be thankful for…

We’re thankful for 33 years of marriage – today. May 27th. 

Even though we’re thankful, finding and feeling that joy isn’t always easy. Marriage and life haven’t always been easy. Boy-oh-boy, have there been some trials. And thirty-three years together as husband and wife doesn’t give us a “pass” to get out of the current or future trials, either.

However, we have a promise. Those trials testing our faith produce endurance. Endurance is a gift for which to be thankful… and if we practice that endurance, we will be complete. We will lack nothing. There are gifts along the way. We’ve seen them already and we have faith there will be more, according to God’s will.

In this “not easy” season we’re holding onto that promise of lacking nothing – with both hands, all four hands. We’re trusting. We’re exercising our faith.

Gifts in this “not easy” season…

What are some gifts in this season of marriage that’s been less than easy?

Our adult children are gifts. 

Consider the joy of children. At first, becoming parents on our 1st wedding anniversary was a trial. Oh, yes. That wasn’t easy. But joy has come from being parents to those children. Adult children are the best gift! They are our sparks of joy and watching them serve the Lord is a truly joyful gift.
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Our grandboy is a gift.

Consider joy.  Everyone predicted grandparenting would be a joy. (Frankly, I was skeptical. It was just a crying, poopy baby, after all…) Today, a year and a half later, we are unable to truly define where this overwhelming joy in the grandboy comes from… it must come from God. It must!  Rob has been saying that “If God loves us the way we love our grandchild, then we’re golden!” Yes. That’s a gift. A gift filled with joy.

consider joy - our grandboy

Friends are a gift.

In the midst of our trials, friends have reached out. A kind word. Prayers. (Oh, you have no idea what a gift it is to know that friends are praying for you and with you!) Encouragement despite ongoing circumstances is a gift of joy. We’ve received gifts – both monetary and physical. Every. Single. Friend. Is. A. Gift.consider joy - a gift for you and your spouse

Consider joy – yes. There is joy in knowing you’re surrounded by the Godly love of friends who are also ministers. There’s joy from family, of congregational members… and friends who unknowingly provide gifts. In this time that’s not been easy, we’ve been surrounded with those who give without measure and without any hope or expectation of repayment.

We’ve been learning the art (and gift) of humbleness. It’s not always an easy gift – but it’s priceless. And there’s joy in it.

The gift of Endurance

We are learning endurance – and it’s having its result. I hope. Our faith is increasing. We have no other choice but to have faith. And we’re already feeling that promise that we lack nothing.

Because when you really think about it, all our hope lies in Jesus. In Jesus’ sacrifice. And the future His sacrifice and God’s grace will provide… is already providing. That’s ALL joy.

Consider it all joy – friends – when we all encounter various trials. That testing of our faith does produce endurance. And if we let it, endurance can have its perfect result. We will find ourselves perfect through God’s grace. And we will find ourselves complete, lacking absolutely nothing…

Are you going through a time that’s not easy?

We can relate. (As you might guess by this post.) Not all years in marriage are easy. It’s hard to encourage each other when it’s been a while since you’ve felt some joy. (Rob says that encouraging an “encourager” is really hard.)

So – as a gift for you… and us too…

As an anniversary gift, one we can all enjoy – and spark some JOY – we’ve created something.


93 simple, quick and mostly free activities for you and your spouse – for all of us – to spark some JOY!   (Why 93? That’s part of a longer story you can read when you click HERE.)

We will be right beside you! We are doing this too!

Those who sign up will receive one email a day with one simple and quick action to take together. Each action is easy – and where it might feel like a stretch, we’ve given you some help. And if you really hate the idea, or physically can’t do it, then there’s the option to pull a different idea from the JOY JAR…

This is our gift to you – a gift to spark some JOY!

Need to learn more about this gift?  Read more HERE.

 or if you’re ready to spark some joy as husband and wife then:

Join us on our 33rd-anniversary experience to consider joy!

Experience some joy in your marriage also!