To become strong we need to build each other up… It’s not a one time thing. Building strength is ongoing.
Think of an athlete working toward competing in an event.
They don’t just eat one healthy meal and call themselves strong…
They don’t exercise once and declare themselves strong…
They don’t only visualize success once and know they’re going to win…
Wives & Husbands who encourage – continue to build each other up every day!
How are you going to encourage & build up your spouse today?
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I need and appreciate this reminder! I’ll call my husband during the day to just thank him for all he does for me and our family. But this post reminds me to do this more often!
Thanks, Ann. I’m sure your hubby loves to hear your voice and words of affirmation!
To encourage & build up my husband I am his biggest cheerleader. I want him to know that I am the one person who will always have his back.
Being present – being the one who your spouse can count on – that’s perfect! I imagine you’re more than a cheerleader (someone who puts on a uniform for a set period of time)… I’m guessing you’re an Encourager! 🙂
Great advice and something most of us don’t do enough of because we tend to take them for granted.
On the other hand, we sometimes get stuck in a pattern of expecting it and being disappointed when it’s not there.
I was about done publishing my first book and sharing some of the excitement with my husband. He didn’t seem to be exhibiting the kind of excitement I had hoped to get. I was very disappointed. It then dawned on me that I can’t expect him to be everything all the time. It would have been nice as this was such an important thing in my life but I knew he wasn’t the kind of guy to fully understand the importance. So I let it go.
A few weeks later, I shared with him that I would be having my first book signing and asked if he wanted to go (rather than telling him or expecting it). The change in his demeanor even though I hadn’t said anything to him, was night and day different! He was super excited and incredibly supportive.
Sometimes, we have to look at what our spouses are able to best provide to us and be grateful for those things. You can’t change someone else no matter how much you try. The best you can do is lead by example!
You’re right, Nicole. Our spouses can’t meet our every need – all the time – especially when life gets murky or hairy… Just as we’re not perfectly attentive all the time either. Only God can meet every need all the time regardless of circumstances.
The ‘magic’ happens in our marriages when we keep on trying.
I love how you reformatted your desire/request. And then saw a different response.
Congratulations on an amazing goal – publishing a book! So much work and persistence!
If there is anything I know about my man, it’s that he loves to laugh! He laughs best and most often when he is … free to be himself. He is free to be himself when I accept him for who he is, a fallen human … just like me!
Mercy is such a sweet gift. Thanks for reminding me of what’s important!
Oh the gift of laughter – so precious. And thank you for the insight into what it takes to encourage the freedom for humor! Sometimes we (I) just think about what we want – not examine the ‘why’ behind the lack. Hmmm.