Calm Care – Love is Patient… so what do you do in a time of waiting?
For some of us –
some of the time –
“the bearing of provocation, and annoyance,
with a calm, even-tempered perseverance”
is a challenge.
Love is Patient
There are times in a marriage relationship
where we need to
WAIT
for our spouse.
We need to wait for our husband or wife to decide.
Our steady and secure attitude – our focus on living in a Christ-like manner – goes a long way when our spouse needs to make decisions. Things around us change quickly. Pushing and giving ultimatums may not be the best way to demonstrate love. When our spouse needs to decide between one action or another, being patient while they work through their dilemma is a gift. God demonstrates his patience with us every day – can we do the same for our spouse?
We need to wait for our wife or husband to grow.
Growth happens at a different pace for everyone. There are seasons of growth. We cannot hurry a seed to grow – it needs time to germinate, it needs time to mature, and then the fruit needs time to ripen before it can be harvested. Give your spouse – your wife or husband – the opportunity to grow in peace. Let God do the planting, weeding, and pruning. It’s not your job. Demonstrate the strength of character and courage it takes to wait – in patience – for a good work to be done in and for your spouse, by the One who knows everything about him or her.
We need to wait for our husband or wife to rest.
It’s not always necessary to be in motion. God demonstrated from the very first the value of rest. Are you patient while your spouse rests? Do you create an environment conducive to rest? Patience is “an ability or willingness to suppress restlessness or annoyance when confronted with delay”.
Love is patient – are you in a season of waiting?
3 Ways to Provide Calm Care in a time of waiting:
- Keep your hope alive. What has God placed in your heart? It may not be the obvious, natural things our human nature drives us to hope for – it may be a silent yearning, a quiet certainty no matter how odd it appears, or a beautiful vision. Be aware of the power of hope – our God is the God of Hope. “May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.” Hope is a key to calm care…
- Keep praying. One, or two, or fifteen or five-hundred prayers may be what it takes to show your persistent patience. Pray without ceasing. Prayer unlocks your ability to be patient and provide calm care.
- Keep your focus on self-less-ness. – It’s not about you. Sorry. This may be the hardest action to take – many of us are such self-absorbed people… However, if you take your “self” out of the equation, you may find having patience easier.
Is this a time of waiting for you? Is it difficult or have you found ways to adjust?
or
Is this YOUR time of waiting & you need your spouse to demonstrate love through patience…
And what comes after love is patient?LOVE IS KIND
Linking up with:
Thriving Thursdays at Serving Joyfully – Hearts 4 Home Thursdays at Our Simple Country Life – Thoughtful Thursday at Found the Marbles
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I’m not in a season of waiting but I am in one of the most hectic seasons of my life and my husband is so incredibly patient. The Lord is kind to us because we never seem to go through these busy spells at the same time. When his schedule is so jammed he can barely think straight is usually when mine has a bit more flexibility and vice versa. We are a team in every sense of the word.
Patience is such a gift from our spouse – may your times of “peaceful leisure” match up soon! Thank you for your kindnesses.
This is such a wonderful reminder. As women we feel like we should always “be in motion”… and so should our husbands and children. WAITING while they “decide, grow and rest” relinquishes our control over them and situations and makes us depend on the Lord. Your post confirms what I read this morning: “The Lord will fight for you, and you have only to be silent.” Ex 14:14. Thank you for challenging me. Now I need to spend time in the Word and prayer and listen for Him to teach me to do this not when its easy, but at all times.
Oh, my – that beast called “control”. (I’m with ya in the fight.) Thank you for sharing the verse – I pray your time in the Word will bear much fruit.
Thank you for sharing your wisdom.
Yes, I am in a season of waiting, was just praying about this earlier. I keep remembering, I can trust God with this. It also helps to say in my head “You’re worth the wait, take your time” even when I am in pain. Jesus endured the cross, I can endure while I wait.
Heidi – I read your comment to Robert (my hubby) out loud. We were both struck by your words “You’re worth the wait”. Thank you for sharing your view of this season. I pray you receive more strength than your faith can imagine.
Definitely in a season of waiting here and it feels like I have been for a long time. I needed this (and the comments). Thank you.
Thank you for sharing. I too value the comments and learning from others. I pray you receive the answers and actions that feed your heart. Waiting is hard.
I have been blessed with an extremely patient husband, but it’s a challenge for me to do the same. Keeping my focus on God and off myself definitely helps!
It’s such a gift when our spouse is patient. I love how you can praise your husband for this quality. Thank you for sharing, Lisa.
I love this…I’ve never realized that our patience is a gift we can give others! Thanks so much for linking up!
Always thankful to connect!
Hi,
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Thanks for linking up! The new weekend linkup was just posted…I’d love to have you join!
Mrs. Sarah Coller
HopeInEverySeason.com
Patience is an attitude of strong people but even a weak man will wait for his spouse if he truly loves her. Patience is a real sign of true love! Thank you Lori for the inspiring post.