Calm Care – Love is Patient… so what do you do in a time of waiting?

For some of us –

some of the time – 

“the bearing of provocation, and annoyance,

 with a calm, even-tempered perseverance”

is a challenge.

Love is Patient -3 Ways to Provide Calm CareLove is Patient

There are times in a marriage relationship

where we need to


for our spouse.

We need to wait for our husband or wife to decide.

Our steady and secure attitude – our focus on living in a Christ-like manner – goes a long way when our spouse needs to make decisions. Things around us change quickly. Pushing and giving ultimatums may not be the best way to demonstrate love. When our spouse needs to decide between one action or another, being patient while they work through their dilemma is a gift. God demonstrates his patience with us every day – can we do the same for our spouse?

We need to wait for our wife or husband to grow.

Growth happens at a different pace for everyone. There are seasons of growth. We cannot hurry a seed to grow – it needs time to germinate, it needs time to mature, and then the fruit needs time to ripen before it can be harvested. Give your spouse – your wife or husband – the opportunity to grow in peace. Let God do the planting, weeding, and pruning. It’s not your job. Demonstrate the strength of character and courage it takes to wait – in patience – for a good work to be done in and for your spouse, by the One who knows everything about him or her.

We need to wait for our husband or wife to rest.

 “By the seventh day God had finished the work he had been doing; so on the seventh day he rested from all his work.

It’s not always necessary to be in motion. God demonstrated from the very first the value of rest. Are you patient while your spouse rests? Do you create an environment conducive to rest? Patience is “an ability or willingness to suppress restlessness or annoyance when confronted with delay”.

 Love is patient – are you in a season of waiting?

Are you in a season of waiting? Love is Patient - 3 ways to provide calm care.

3 Ways to Provide Calm Care in a time of waiting:

  1. Keep your hope alive. What has God placed in your heart? It may not be the obvious, natural things our human nature drives us to hope for – it may be a silent yearning, a quiet certainty no matter how odd it appears, or a beautiful vision. Be aware of the power of hope – our God is the God of Hope. “May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.” Hope is a key to calm care…
  2. Keep praying. One, or two, or fifteen or five-hundred prayers may be what it takes to show your persistent patience. Pray without ceasing. Prayer unlocks your ability to be patient and provide calm care.
  3. Keep your focus on self-less-ness. – It’s not about you. Sorry. This may be the hardest action to take – many of us are such self-absorbed people…  However, if you take your “self” out of the equation, you may find having patience easier. 

Is this a time of waiting for you? Is it difficult or have you found ways to adjust?


Is this YOUR time of waiting & you need your spouse to demonstrate love through patience…

And what comes after love is patient?LOVE IS KIND


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