We all need to feel important, and validated.
Wouldn’t it be wonderful if, as husbands and wives,
we behaved in a way which demonstrated how important our spouse is to us?
Time & priority demonstrates what level of importance your spouse holds.
An encouraged spouse feels important…
both because of the time you’ve spent with her/him and the attention you’ve given her/him.
Where does your spouse come on the list of “to-do” items in your day?
Let’s try an analogy:
If you think of your day as a sandwich…
which item represents your spouse?
Do you bookend your day with your spouse, like the bread on either side of your sandwich?
Is your spouse like the meat of your day –
the strength, the protein, the item in which you invest the most?
Or has your spouse become like the token piece of cheese, pushed between layers?
Is your spouse like the extra items – a tomato, a piece of lettuce, an onion or a pickle slice –
that could easily be left off?
(Or – sometimes deliberately left off… because you’re not “in the mood”? )
Could it be that your spouse is relegated to the thin spread , like butter, mayonnaise or mustard-
only there to add a bit of flavor?
What does your spouse feel like – in the sandwich of your day?
Yeah. Just a thought…
Need some ideas on what to do together?
Check out this post at Leadership Couples…
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Another excellent article Lori. I think if we are all honest with ourselves, the truthful answer is that on any given day, your spouse is any one of those things. But, I know that the intention of your article … and blog, is to make us take stock and think about our priorities. I am really going to work hard at making sure Ryan is the protein packed meat on my sandwich!
I’m with ya, Merry – it’s possible that we view our spouse as any of these ingredients on different days… Thanks for commenting!
My spouse is like the mayo but I think that’s a good thing. I could survive with out him if I had to but my day/sandwich/life would be seriously lacking. The mayo is the binder that gives the sandwich its texture and helps the flavors to blend in a pleasing manor. Without him the kids, the house, my work, and even myself would still exist but we wouldn’t be the same (or anywhere as good) as we are with him. He’s not just one component of the sandwich, rather he affects and improves the entire package.
That’s a valuable perspective, Andrea – I love your illustration. Now you’ve got me thinking!
I had to stop by from Thrive at Home because your title intrigued me. I am so glad that I did. Excellent article and analogy. Thanks for sharing.