Difficult Mother’s Day – These Flowers Are For You

Difficult Mother’s Day?

Soon we will be wishing women a “happy mother’s day” – In North America it’s the traditional 2nd Sunday in May to do this. For all those who celebrate, there are others who can’t wait for the day to be over – it’s a difficult mother’s day.

For some, this is a day filled with anguish and grief.

Why is that? The term “mother” can’t be pinned only on those women who gave birth, and who will get a card or gift acknowledging their role.

There are also people we sometimes forget – or perhaps we don’t know how much they love children with a mother’s love.

With these flowers … #honorallmoms

I’m thinking of you…

The first group of women who might have a difficult Mother’s Day, could have given birth, but those babies aren’t here – they’re in heaven.

• Maybe those babies didn’t breathe even one breath and only the mom and dad knew there was a life growing. These flowers are for you.
• Maybe those babies’ lives were ended before they left your womb, and only you, the mom, think of them today with a deep love. These flowers are for you.
• Maybe those babies lived for a while, and even grew into adulthood, but they aren’t here today – they’ve preceded you, their mother, into eternity. These flowers are for you.

We acknowledge your love and sorrow. Your Heavenly Father loves you. These flowers are for you.

The second group who might find Mother’s Day difficult, are those who love a child, but these women can’t wear the name “mother”. 

• Some of these women love children with a mother’s love, because they married, and their husband brought the children into their lives. Maybe no-one else sees and knows how fiercely you love these children. Maybe you aren’t allowed to wear the name “mother”. These flowers are for you.
• Maybe you gave birth to a child, but everyone else has forgotten. You gave that child to another couple to raise – yet your heart aches today with a mother’s love. These flowers are for you.
• Perhaps you are longing to give birth. You love this child to be – this child you can imagine holding in your arms…

We acknowledge your love and sacrifice. Your Heavenly Father loves you. These flowers are for you.

The third group of women and men who might find Mother’s Day difficult are those who love a child – but that child is not with you, nor might anyone else call you a “mother”.  Yet – you love that child with a motherly love.

• Perhaps you’re an aunt or uncle or grandparent, who nurtured a child with a mother’s care and love. These flowers are for you.
• Perhaps you love a child, and wanted to give that child a forever home, but circumstances ended that option. You think of that child today – where ever he or she is — and love her or him with a mother’s love. These flowers are for you.
• Perhaps there is a child – or children – you have adopted within your heart. There are no legal ties, and maybe that child doesn’t even know. But you love the child with a mother’s love. These flowers are for you.

We acknowledge you. Your Heavenly Father loves you. These flowers are for you.

These flowers stand as a small banner to a mother’s love.

A mother’s love has no barrier – not earth or eternity, not time or distance, not fear or hate.

We acknowledge your mother’s love.

You are not forgotten.

You are thought of and prayed for.

Happy Mother’s Day.

These photos are from a bouquet made for our church members in Garner North Carolina – we will be reading a version of this piece on Mother’s day – and the bouquet will be visible for all to see. We seek to honor all mothers’ love on Mother’s Day.

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As a husband – take a look at this post to encourage your wife on a difficult day…