Encouraging Words for your Anniversary – or anytime! #1

Encouraging Words for your Anniversary – or anytime! #1

Encouraging words for your anniversary… Is it always easy to find those encouraging words? Some years you may have many wonderful words to share with your spouse. However, there may be other years when you need a little help. (This is true for Rob and me too!)

Encouraging words for your anniversary!

Some encouraging words for your anniversary… or anytime!  What dates do you and your husband or wife celebrate or commemorate? Are there other significant dates you could being celebrating? 😉  Maybe some encouraging words on those days would be good also!.

Over the next 10 days, I’ll be sharing 10 ideas on what you could say (and do) for these significant dates and the days that follow.

#1 –  “I promise to love you more every day.”

Our marriage is about more than the days and years. It’s about how much more we love each other every day.

Love each other more - encouraging words for your anniversary or anytime

As the days and years go by, we could start to take our love for each other for granted.

What if this year you loved your spouse more every day?

How could you do that? In what ways – every day – could you demonstrate your love is growing? What could you begin doing? Or stop doing?

  • start and end every day praying with each other – for each other
  • stop criticizing and complaining, rather, learn to encourage with hope, faith, love, prayer, and action
  • start kissing each other… often!  How often do you kiss your husband or wife every day? Make it MORE!
  • stop looking at your phone, TV, or computer when your spouse is talking to you – give her/him your full attention when you’re talking!
  • start having a date every week!  It doesn’t need to be expensive or be hours and hours! A date could be as simple as walking to the closest convenience store and buying each other a favorite chocolate bar! (You do know your spouse’s favorite treat, right?)

Do you know your spouse’s love language? Could you “speak it” more often so your spouse feels loved?

Go HERE to determine your own love language, and have your spouse do the same. It only takes a few moments and it’s free! Even if you’ve done it before, it’s valuable to do it again. Gary Chapman’s book, The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts is a book Rob and I recommend as the first concept for every couple to use no matter where they are in their relationship journey.

When is your anniversary?

What’s the best gift you’ve ever received from your spouse?

Maybe it was something physical… maybe it wasn’t!  Did it correspond to your love language?

Rob left sticky notes with words of affirmation around our little house-on-wheels… that was a wonderful gift for me!

encouraging words for your anniversary or anytime - words of affirmation Rob left for me


Words Matter – What words surround you and those you love?

Words Matter – What words surround you and those you love?

Words Matter – your words, the words you read, and those you hear. Words matter to your spouse, to your children, to your guests and everyone you love. The message you give to those in your home shapes their day – their view of life and their understanding of what is important.

Words Matter – What are you doing to make a positive impact?

Is Facebook and social media the prevailing force in your life or the lives of those you love?  

We have a friend who is being deliberate about her words on Facebook. She is a mature lady, a Christ-honoring widow, and an example for me. She became specifically disturbed by all the negativity on her Facebook feed and decided she’d do something about it. Personally. Actively.

She began a deliberate campaign many months ago to post at least one positive thought each day.  Many people (online and in person) remark on her active choice to be optimistic. Recently I overheard a friend speaking to her about all the positive posts and how much it means to this friend…

We all can change our Facebook, Instagram, and other social media channels to reflect what is good, true, and positive. I’m joining my Christ-following, widowed friend in her online campaign… 

I challenge you too! 

Enjoy the moment - Item 2003725 - Great Big Canvas by Daphne Brissonnet Serene Moments IV Wall Art - Words MatterBut social media is only one way we consume words…

What words are in your home?

What forms of media are a part of your mental consumption?

Which shows do you watch or stream? Are they building you up — or pulling your mood down? How do you feel when you’ve finished watching these programs? Do you feel energized and positive about your life, world, and future?  If the television is on, it’s having an effect on everyone in the house – not just those who are actively watching.

What books or magazines are you reading?

Words Matter - This book is what is on the table beside my chair - you might guess where my thoughts are...

This book is what is on the table beside my chair – guess where my thoughts are…

Are you learning something new that will make a good impact on you, your spouse, your family and your community? Remember, even a book left sitting on the table influences everyone by the artwork on the cover. The influence might not even be conscious but it’s there. (Do you have a Bible? Does it have dust on it, or is it piled under every other book?)

What pictures are on your walls?  What’s on your ‘fridge?

Rob and I have been house/dog sitting in quite a few different environments over the last 3 years. Every home is unique and what is displayed is a choice they’ve made at a particular moment in their life. Is it still relevant for them at this time?

Rob and I have felt “at home” and comfortable in all the spaces we’ve stayed in… and we do take note of what’s displayed. (It’s hard not to!)  Some displays have even impacted what I write about here on Encourage Your Spouse or post on social media.

Are you in your house right now – as you read this post? 

If you’re not at home, think about your rooms.

What words/art would impact everyone in your home?Words Matter - Be Happy Wall Art by Jennifer Pugh Item 1988111 at Great Big Canvas

We’ve found a site with all kinds of art – including inspirational art with words. Click here to explore. Maybe this Christmas your “home” could have a gift under the tree with words to encourage, inspire, uplift and motivate! Words matter!

Or maybe for the upcoming Holidays including Thanksgiving, you want to gift your family, adult children, and friends with something that will inspire them? All the photos on this post are from GreatBigCanvas.com. This is one of the affiliates we’ve chosen to highlight for unique gift giving options. Other gifting options we’ve found are for wine and for tea! (It’s kinda humorous that a teapot I like has fun words.)

Below are a few other pieces of art from GreatBigCanvas.com we think would have a positive impact on you and your spouse.

I think it’s cool that they’re available in a few different forms, including, of course, framed and unframed of various sizes, but also as a wall peel, printed on a reusable vinyl with a special adhesive that sticks to walls without harming them. The wall peel format would be good for Rob and me in our little house-on-wheels. (Hanging photos and traveling don’t go well together!)

Words Matter - The Teaching of Kindness by Cherie Burbach at Great Big Canvas - item 2496431

Words Matter - Gratitude Changes Everything wall art at Great Big Canvas Item 2406109 by Stephanie Ryan

Words Matter - Guide Me Wall Art by Dennis Frates Item 1988082 at Great Big Canvas-

What are the favorite words you have on your walls?

Leave a comment with what you want to influence your spouse – your family – and guests! With your comment, you can impact us too! 😉 Words matter!

Words matter - what is hanging on your walls and is it impacting your family

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Chai Tea Comfort Date for you and your spouse.

Chai Tea Comfort Date for you and your spouse.

Chai Tea comfort date – it’s a comforting drink for you and your spouse in autumn and winter. (It’s comforting in spring and summer, too, of course!)   Have you ever tried STASH Chai tea? You’ll see it in the grocery store… but only one or maybe two varieties of Chai are available there. When I explored the STASH website, I was blown away by the variety of Chai teas!

Rob and I are fans of Chai Tea

To us, Chai tea tastes like Christmas in a cup!

I didn’t realize all the varieties available:

  • vanilla chai – it’s a rich and creamy, naturally decaffeinated chai tea. With a splash of milk and sugar, it feels (and tastes) like a delicious dessert – without the calories!
  • spice dragon red chai – it’s a herbal blend with Rooibos, a South African herb also known as red tea, combined with clove, ginger root, and sweet cinnamon to create a unique, caffeine-free sweet and spicy chai.
  • ginger fire chai – A touch of fiery ginger adds a kick, yerba mate provides an energizing element, and cinnamon lends a nice spicy finish. The subtle sweetness of vanilla balances out the overall flavors.
  • green chai – Chai Green blends green tea with cinnamon, whole cloves, cardamom, ginger root and sarsaparilla.
  • and more – including loose leaf Chai tea blends an K-cups!

When we want to have a quiet and simple date night (in our little-house-on-wheels, on the road, or while we’re house/dog sitting) it’s so easy to pull out two tea bags and brew a cup for each of us. 

Date night doesn’t have to be expensive – you just need to enjoy what you’re doing!

Give your spouse a gift of comfort – try some Chai!

Have you and your spouse ever tried Chai tea? Even die-hard coffee drinkers enjoy Chai tea because of its unique flavors. This is no namby-pamby, colorless experience! Our adult children also enjoy Chai – and we love to share a pot of the “flavor of Christmas” as the days grow shorter, and the nights get colder.

It makes a perfect gift — buy a new mug and add a few Chai Tea varieties as a gift for your spouse… along with a coupon to invite them on a “Chai Tea comfort date”! It’s unique. It’s tasty and warm… just like you! 😉

A Mug filled with Comfort – Invite your spouse for a Chai Tea Date!

A date doesn’t need to be expensive!


Chai Tea Comfort Date – give your spouse an invitation!

Is there a “Date Night” on your calendar? Now’s the time to schedule one!  

(There are some gorgeous Tea sets on Stash’s site! – click to see!)

Mugs From DaySpring – True-Noble-Lovely-Pure Mugs

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Need more date ideas for the autumn?  Try these!


New Experiences – Give a Gift of Wine

New Experiences – Give a Gift of Wine

New experiences (the Value of Discovery) have played a huge part in our 33+ years of marriage. Whether they’re small discoveries, like a new restaurant… Rob and Lori at Seaons52 in Raleigh - Values Drive Experiencesor big experiences like our time in the RV parked in beautiful places…

new experiences - like RVing - are part of a strong marriage - wine and other experiences

…they’ve all created good memories we reminisce about whenever we have a down moment or 2 or 10,080.

Good memories of things you’ve enjoyed together are part of a strong marriage.

What new experiences do you enjoy as a couple?

Some couples enjoy learning. Others love to travel. And some couples are passionate about entertainment, or sports or hiking, museums, shopping, cars, antiquing, and other activities.

What’s your newest discovery, passion or experience as a couple?Take the Bright Cellars Quiz and discover wine you love!

Are you wine aficionados

Rob and I have good friends who are wine enthusiasts. They take delight in traveling to the west coast of the USA for new experiences with wine-tasting excursions. They’ve shared some of their favorite wines with us, and we’ve loved the experience.

To be candid, we really don’t know what we like in wine… so we’d need to be guided if we were to have a “wine discovery experience” in our future. Are you like us?

Do you need help exploring to know what kind of wine you’d like?

We’ve just found a fun company of wine experts, Bright Cellars, who have a quiz that tells you what kind of wine you might enjoy! They’re a monthly wine club that finds unique, hidden gems from small vineyards from all over the world. Created by two MIT grads with a passion for wine, the Bright Points algorithm scores each wine by comparing 18 attributes to your preferences, matching you with your monthly experience.

Is someone on your gifting list interested in wine?

Anniversaries or birthdays or Christmas are all reasons we give gifts – what about the gift of a wine experience? Bright Cellars has a unique gift program where they send a certificate (or you can hand deliver it) to someone to try the experience of new wines!

Try the wine quiz!

Click the picture to begin – it’s fun!

Take the Bright Cellars quiz and discover wine you love!

If you’re at all like Rob and me, we stand in the store and look at the aisles of wine, wondering how to choose. This idea takes the pain of choosing away, and just leaves you with the fun of unwrapping a new experience!

Maybe your spouse would like a “wine experience”?

Here’s a creative way to share something with your spouse – a new memory to make! And have a special gift for her – or him!  Take Bright Cellars Quiz and discover wine you love!

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Rob and I suggest this gift experience with caution. Many people enjoy wine and alcohol in moderation without any adverse impact. However, we are also aware of many who find alcohol a destructive poison for their life and marriage. Use wisdom in considering this idea.

If, for any reason you feel a gift of alcohol would not be a good idea, please, please, find another option. Maybe flowers? You could buy a Bouquet from Bouqs or set up a monthly gift there.

take away the pain of choosing and just enjoy unwrapping a new experiences

How to Show You Value Your Spouse – 10 Point Marriage Tune-Up

How to Show You Value Your Spouse – 10 Point Marriage Tune-Up

How to value your spouse with a 10 Point Marriage Tune-Up? Is this necessary? Doesn’t marriage just “happen”?

Oh, yeah. Marriage can just happen.

There are those husbands and wives who let marriage “happen”… and then years into their relationship they realize they’ve grown apart. They don’t have anything in common. Or these couples look at the person they live their life with and say, “Is this all there is?”.

If people gave the amount of attention to their vehicles the way they do to their marriage, that vehicle would stop working. It would run out of gas, and oil. The brakes would fail. The headlights would go dark. You’d never drive around in a car with no headlights, with dirty spark plugs, with broken springs, or cracked windshields, would you? Why would a marriage relationship need less attention than a vehicle?

Your marriage needs more attention to its working parts than your vehicle does. It’s not easy. And if you’re in a time of sputtering, and your marriage tires need a top-up of air, then we want to encourage you to try some small stuff. Simple stuff. Give it a try…

Give it a 10 point marriage tune-up.

10 Point Marriage Tune-Up -10 ways to show you value your spouse and keep your marriage running well

Invest in your marriage relationship – tune it up!

A few years ago we created a series of articles on this concept – 10 posts about 10 ways to show your spouse you value her/him. This year we’ve updated these posts to make the series more rich and robust! The links to each post are below – click on each image to go deeper.

Show respect- value your spouse - Match your tone & words to your body language - 10 point marriage tune-up - number 1Click to go deeper!

Brag about your spouse - which qualities do you admire about your spouse - download a free resource to make a list - Encourage YClick to go deeper! – 2 of 10Wait - let your spouse finish their thoughts - 3rd of 10 Point Marriage Tune Up - Encourage Your Spouse -Click to go deeper – 3 of 10Be on Time for your spouse. Show you value her or him - 4th of the 10 point marriage tune up seriesClick to go deeper – #4 Click to Go Deeper – 5 of 10Click to go deeper – 6 of 10Honor your spouses family of orgin including their quirks and qualities. Be positive. 7 of 10 points Marriage Tune Up to encourage your spouseClick to go deeper – 7 of 10 Share your schedule with your spouse - show you value their contribution to your life together - 8 of 10 point marriage tune upClick to go deeper – 8 of 10Appreciate your spouses personality to show you value her or him. 9 of 10Click to go deeper – 9 of 10Ask for and accept help from your spouse - you are the dream team. 10 of 10 ways to value your spouseClick to go deeper – 10 of 10

Make your marriage a priority and value your spouse!

If you ignored your career, and never learned anything new, you wouldn’t progress… you might even find yourself without a career.

If you ignored your vehicle, never added gas or oil, never replaced the spark plugs, you wouldn’t be able to drive it.

Does your marriage have less value than your career or your car?  This 10 point marriage tune-up isn’t hard – it just needs a bit of attention! Don’t procrastinate.

Don’t wait – NOW is the time to pay attention to your marriage relationship!

I’m thinking I’d like to make this into a series of 10 marriage tune-up emails – one a day for 10 days… what do you think?

Would that be more useful? Leave a comment…